Fearless Female Interview: Heather M.
What’s your dream career?
I would literally LOVE to be a full-time painter or artist! Just me, creating, alone in an art studio, probably some hanging plants, tons of natural light, and music playing 24/7. That is honestly THE DREAM. More realistically, I would love to become a psychology professor, so I'm hoping to earn either a masters or phd in the next several years. I love teaching and helping people-- especially about psychology, which I'm super passionate about!
What does a fearless female look like to you?
To me, a fearless female understands deeply all of the ways in which the world will hold her back, and still continues to remember her worth. I'm not sure if the fear is ever really gone, but it's the confidence and bravery she needs in order to overcome the fear that really matters. Being a fearless female means knowing that other's opinions do not define her, and have no power over her. Anyone who has a problem with her confidence is someone that she doesn't want in her life anyways, y'know? She goes after what makes her happy. She pursues her goals unapologetically. She is gentle with herself and understanding of others. She honestly believes that she is beautiful. That is a fearless female.
Why do you think it’s important to see more women in positions of leadership?
It's SO important to see women in positions of leadership because they INSPIRE. They allow young girls to dream bigger than what television and the media have shown us for so long. And even now, when I'm almost twenty years old, seeing a woman in a position of leadership is so exciting. It makes me feel like I could actually do that. It's like a weight off of my shoulders to know that I am capable of pursuing whatever I want, and that I have so many opportunities.
Why is it important to encourage girls and women to pursue fields stereotypically dominated by men?
Diversity is so important; when we appreciate people that are different than us, we become more kind. The world becomes a more loving and understanding place. More women in workplaces typically dominated by men means more diversity. And therefore, a better world.
How does being a fearless female benefit you and bring you closer to your goals?
Love this question! Because for so, so long (about eighteen years!) I was insanely afraid to be myself. I wanted all of these things-- to be louder, to be more opinionated, to be more honest, to be more authentic. And I couldn't, because I was afraid of what people would think. In these past seven months, I've pushed myself out of my comfort zone. I've posted things on Instagram that I would have NEVER posted before. I've been more honest about who I am-- despite knowing that there are people who probably don't like it very much. It was definitely scary in the beginning, but now, I literally could not care less. I love being myself. I love being authentic. It's been amazing to see all of these opportunities open up for me; I have all of these people who genuinely like me and are rooting for me-- the REAL me! Letting go was the BEST thing that I have ever done for myself. I'm chasing my goals, and believing, and I am so excited for the future!
What advice would you give to young girls about being a fearless female or women struggling to recognize their power?
Girl!!! Know that things change. There is ALWAYS more to explore and discover about yourself and the world. And you WILL find where you belong. Embrace the days that you feel unmotivated, unloved, or feel as if you are not good enough. They are part of your story, and are carrying you forward into the best days of your life. You are BEAUTIFUL. An actual living art piece! All of the things about you that you hate-- are what actually work to make you UNIQUE. I don't care what it is! Your big nose, your chubby tummy, your "thunder thighs," your acne, your frizzy hair-- WE NEED THEM IN THIS WORLD! We need YOU! Sounds cheesy, but it's true. You make our world more diverse, simply by existing. How cool is that!?
What are you tips for being a fearless female?
Push yourself to do the things that scare you; you won't regret it. Do not allow bad thoughts to enter your brain-- visualize a door closing and keeping them out. Love others, and love yourself. Make love one of the most important things in your life. And, a more practical tip-- scroll through your fav instagram tags, and literally just (genuinely) compliment everyone!! Tell that girl that you freakin' love her blonde hair! Give that person a shoutout because you love how artistic their feed is! Not only does it make someone else's day, but it helps to change your own mindset. You begin to see and appreciate all of the beauty in the world.
What makes a feminist in your eyes?
A feminist is someone who believes in equality among ALL people. Not only equality between men and women-- but equality between transgendered people, people of all races, ethnicities, and cultures, and simply those who do not fit the mold. A feminist is someone who sees a person for who they are on the inside, not what is on the outside.